A client calls and tells me about her recent visit with her doctor. "The baby was head down in the ultrasound today. My doctor says that is a good thing and the baby's size looks normal too". Great! I'm so excited for her and that things are moving forward.
While all this is happening, I visit another client and while explaining that after birth, the nurses will check to make sure her uterus is getting smaller again by feeling for her fundus (the top of her uterus), she looks at me a little puzzled. So I ask if her doctor is measuring her belly at appointments and she says no.
These stories are becoming so common that my heart breaks. Pregnancy is such a huge change emotionally, spiritually, and physically and it seems like we are now also afraid to touch her growing baby. Instead, we rely on technology to tell us what is there.
But what I am afraid of most of all...
Is that when we rely solely on technology, we tell our pregnant moms that they can't get this information for themselves. That their hands will never be able to feel their baby's position. That they cannot connect through touch - and I see routinely that many women are craving that tender, loving touch.
I may not be able to change the way medicine is practiced single-handedly, and I'm not sure that is what I want to tackle.
I want the power to be found within your own hands.
It is your body and your baby...and I want you to accept your all-access pass to put your hands on yourself and your baby as often as you like and explore. You will feel round-hard parts, bumpy parts, get kicked a few times, and with time your hands will come to know what all those parts are. Feel free to let your partner explore too and see if together you can determine what you feel or simply play with your growing baby. Babies, even in utero, are fans of massage.
If you are not sure where to start...
Take your hands and place them on your belly, anywhere you like. Take some big breathes and send them into your belly so you feel your hands expand too. No rush. Your baby will move, your baby will grow, and even if your hands never move from those spots, you will feel your baby...and your baby will feel you.